I usually meet the end of the summer with mixed emotions. Sad, knowing that my kids won’t be around as much, yet also excited to get time to pursue my interests and build my business.
My kids started school today, and for the first time, there was a boogie board in my son’s 1st day photo. I have to admit that it was super awesome to be able to start the day riding some waves with him instead of putting him on the bus. As you’ve likely guessed, we are schooling at home this year.
Again, I have mixed emotions. The excitement of being able to go to the beach during school hours, creating our own field trips, and teaching my kids how to cook mingled with worries about how much oversight my 6th grader will need in completing his virtual lessons, how much time I’ll have to myself or with my husband, and too many people stuffed inside our house trying to be productive at our various tasks.
Like all American families with children, we have been presented with difficult options regarding our kids’ education. Not one of them is perfect, and each comes with its own risks, be that medical, social, or other. We find ourselves choosing what we feel is the best option given the information we have, our needs, and our resources.
One thing I know for sure, every family, every parent, is doing the best they can with love in their hearts for the people who matter most to them.
But what is next? What will the outcomes be for the choices we are making? We don’t know. We can’t know and that’s a tough pill to swallow. Yet, accepting that we can’t completely control outcomes can bring us to handle situations better.
As parents, we are used to getting a lot of tough questions from our kids. In the past week alone I have heard, “Why can’t we have superpowers?’” “Does God exist?” “How long will our dog live?” and more. We don’t know a lot of the answers to what kids throw at us and it’s okay to admit it. One huge lesson from this pandemic is that we cannot predict the future. Plans that we felt certain about can change in a moment, in a big way.
If we can help our kids (and ourselves) learn to sit with “not knowing,” we can help them deal better with whatever outcome exists. The truth is, we don’t know. We can only make decisions based on the information we have. What we can do is assure our children that we are doing everything we can to care for them the best we can. We can prepare them for possible outcomes. And we can support them with love in whatever happens next.